Teaching Consent to Kids: A Guide for Every Age

The Australian government’s new campaign, “Consent Can’t Wait,” encourages a deeper understanding of consent beyond simple “no means no” messages. It urges adults to discuss these important issues with children and teens.

Parents often wonder when to start talking about consent, especially since these topics weren’t commonly discussed in their own upbringing.

For young children (0–5 years), it’s beneficial to start small conversations early. Children begin to understand their bodies during this time, so it’s a good opportunity to teach basic ideas about consent, body safety, and respecting personal boundaries. For example, if a child asks to stop tickling or roughhousing, it’s important to respect their request. Teaching them to be polite without forcing physical affection, like hugs or kisses, helps them understand their own boundaries and respect others’ feelings.

As children grow older (6–11 years) and start interacting more at school, parents can help them navigate conflicts and understand consent more deeply. It’s essential to teach them about verbal and non-verbal communication, showing them how to respect others’ boundaries and appreciate diversity. They should also learn how to express discomfort if someone makes them feel uncomfortable.

During adolescence (12–18 years), these foundational skills in consent expand to include romantic relationships. Teens need to understand that consent can be withdrawn at any time, and it should always be voluntary, free from pressure or coercion. They should learn to respect others’ boundaries and handle rejection gracefully. Educating them about safe online behavior, including the importance of consent in activities like sexting, is also crucial.

Families should start these conversations early, focusing on basic principles of ethics, rights, and personal autonomy. Discussions should be ongoing, open, and free from judgment, creating a supportive environment where children feel comfortable seeking guidance. It’s also important to address broader topics like challenging stereotypes, promoting empathy, and teaching online safety alongside consent education.

While understanding consent is crucial, it’s also important to address other aspects of respectful behavior to prevent sexual violence. Consistent parental involvement and creating a nurturing home environment play key roles in shaping children’s understanding of consent and promoting healthy relationships throughout their lives.

Re-reported from the article originally published in She the People.