Ask the Mentor

We all face challenges in our careers. Sometimes, all we need is a little guidance to navigate those tricky situations with confidence and ease. Here, we’ve gathered practical advice to help you tackle common workplace challenges in a way that feels right for you. Remember, it’s all about finding what works best for you and staying true to your values.

1. What’s a practical way to set boundaries at work without feeling like I’m letting others down? – Veena

Setting boundaries is important for your well-being and productivity. The key is to be clear, polite, and consistent when communicating boundaries. Framing them positively can help others understand how they enable you to contribute better. Instead of thinking of boundaries as a way to push people away, see them as a way to help you work better. For example, if you’re often asked to work late, explain how taking time for yourself helps you perform better during work hours.

Tip: Use the “Sandwich Technique” to communicate your boundaries effectively—start with a positive statement, clearly express your boundary, and provide an alternative solution. For example, “I really enjoy working on this project and want to give it my full attention. To do that effectively, I need to maintain a set schedule. Let’s discuss ways to prioritize tasks to meet our deadlines efficiently.”

2. How do I figure out what success really means to me, rather than what others expect it to be? – Indu

Success means different things to different people, and it evolves with time and experience. To understand what success truly means to you, take time to reflect on what brings you a sense of fulfillment and purpose, and what feels right for you, not what society expects. Consider what aspects of your life bring you the most satisfaction and motivation. For example, if you enjoy creative work, success might mean engaging in meaningful projects rather than pursuing a traditional career path.

Tip: Start by listing five values that are most important to you—such as creativity, balance, or making a difference—and evaluate whether your current goals align with them. Visualizing where you want to be in 10 years can help clarify what success looks like for you.

3. What’s the best way to stand out in a competitive environment without coming across as overly aggressive? – Amelia

You don’t have to be pushy to get noticed at work. Just focus on doing your job well and supporting your colleagues. Consistently delivering good work and being a team player can help you shine. Instead of trying too hard to get noticed, let your work and attitude speak for you. For Example: Instead of only talking about your achievements, highlight how the team contributed. You could say, “I led the client pitch, and thanks to Priya’s research, we were able to secure the deal.” This makes you look good while also appreciating others.

Tip: Build your personal brand by being reliable and helpful. Share your ideas in a way that tells a story and makes your contribution stand out naturally.

4. How can I make networking feel more genuine when it often feels forced or awkward to me? – Evelyn

Networking becomes more meaningful when it is approached with authenticity and curiosity rather than as a mere transaction. Focus on creating connections based on shared interests and values rather than simply exchanging professional details. Engage in conversations that go beyond surface-level topics by expressing genuine interest in others’ journeys and experiences. For Example: Instead of the typical, “What do you do?” try asking, “What inspired you to pursue your career?” This opens the door for more engaging dialogue and helps build rapport.

Tip: Prepare a few thoughtful questions in advance to make networking feel more natural. Prioritize building a few meaningful connections rather than trying to meet as many people as possible. Following up with a personalized message after your interaction can help strengthen the relationship over time.

By looking at networking as a chance to learn and share ideas, it becomes something fun and rewarding that can help you grow in your career.

-Dr. Abha Bhartia is a DEI and L& D Consultant with 22+ years in the industry. She is a certified coach. She designs and facilitates customized training programs that focus on a range of topics, from soft skills to leadership development.