Couples' Playbook: 12 Game-Changing Rules for a Great Marriage

How can two walk together unless they agree? The truth is, many marriages get ruined because of misunderstandings. These misunderstandings often stem from a lack of agreement on how to handle the issues that affect each marriage. Failing to agree will lead to the husband-and-wife interpreting things differently, resulting in feelings of hurt, insensitivity, rejection, intolerance, and indifference.

To avoid this, establish clear rules with your spouse on the do’s and don’ts. Here are 12 essential areas to cover:

NO MORE DRAMA: SOCIAL MEDIA RULES

In today’s digital age, social media can be a minefield for relationships. Set clear boundaries to avoid unnecessary conflicts and maintain trust.

No being Facebook friends with exes
Avoid suggestive comments on others’ posts
No airing domestic issues online
Agree on what personal information to share
COOL IT DOWN: TEMPER RULES

Every couple argues, but how you handle disagreements can make or break your relationship. Establish a framework for managing conflicts constructively.

Decide how to handle anger (e.g., take space, address quickly)
No going to sleep angry at each other
Establish a process for addressing disagreements
CASH TALK: MONEY RULES

Financial disagreements are a leading cause of marital stress. Create a clear financial plan that works for both of you.

Decide on joint bank accounts
Set spending thresholds without consultation
Assign bill payment responsibilities
Plan for saving and investing
Agree on financial support for in-laws
ME TIME: INDIVIDUAL SPACE RULES

While togetherness is crucial, maintaining individual identities is equally important. Respect each other’s need for personal space.

Agree on how to communicate need for alone time
Support each other’s need for personal space
Establish boundaries for individual activities
RING SMART: PHONE RULES

In our always-connected world, phone usage can create tension. Set guidelines to ensure technology enhances rather than hinders your relationship.

No chatting with others past a certain time (e.g., 11 PM)
Maintain transparency about calls and messages
Inform each other about important calls
SPLIT IT FAIR: CHORE RULES

Uneven division of household tasks can breed resentment. Create a fair system that works for your unique situation.

Assign specific tasks to each partner
Ensure fairness to prevent resentment
Regularly review and adjust as needed
KID CODE: PARENTHOOD RULES

Parenting disagreements can strain even the strongest relationships. Align your approach to create a united front.

Agree on disciplinary methods
Divide parental responsibilities
Plan attendance at school events
Make joint decisions on children’s diet and activities
CLOCK WATCH: COMING HOME RULES

Respecting each other’s time is crucial for maintaining harmony. Establish clear expectations about schedules and communication.

How to communicate delays
Define what “too late” means for your relationship
Remember, marriage is about partnership, not individual convenience
BEDROOM BASICS: SEX RULES

A healthy sex life is vital for most marriages. Open communication about intimacy can strengthen your bond.

Discuss acceptable positions and practices
Define what’s off-limits
Plan for intimacy during menstruation
Remember, each couple is unique
OFFICE HOURS: WORK RULES

Balancing career and marriage can be challenging. Set boundaries to ensure work doesn’t overwhelm your relationship.

Set limits on bringing work home
Strategize for handling conflicting career demands
Plan for leave and off days
Support each other’s professional growth
FULL DISCLOSURE: INFORMATION RULES

Transparency builds trust. Keep each other informed about your daily lives to maintain a strong connection.

Notify each other of your whereabouts
Share daily schedules
Keep each other informed of significant events
FRIEND ZONE: SOCIAL RULES

Maintaining friendships is important, but they shouldn’t come at the cost of your marriage. Set clear boundaries for social interactions.

Introduce each other to friends
Set limits on opposite-gender friendships
Agree on frequency of hosting friends at home

Agreeing on these key issues brings about order, peace, and unity; both of you will know how to navigate and behave. If your marriage is chaotic because of lack of order, it’s not too late to have a conversation leading to an agreement on these issues.

Remember, a great marriage doesn’t have to be complicated. By setting clear expectations and rules, you can simplify your relationship and strengthen your bond. Start the dialogue today and watch your marriage thrive!

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