Ida Tin’s “Dear Men” Series: Part 15 of 29 – Losing a Pregnancy
Dear Men, this is post 15/29 on what it feels like to have a woman’s body: Losing a pregnancy
Between having my son and daughter I was pregnant. And then at around three months I started bleeding. I was on holidays so it took some days before I could make it to my gynaecologist while I kept bleeding. She did an ultrasound scan and told me, there is a pregnancy but no baby. It took me a little while to understand that there was the sack in my uterus where the baby should have been but it was empty. My body had realised there was a problem and had started to expel the whole thing. I needed to just wait and then try again. I was sad. It felt like I had lost a baby though there had never been one. Now I can say it was a small grief and healed fast but as I walked out the doctors office I cried.
Losing a wanted pregnancy spontaneously, early or late is really, really sad. For some it happens again and again. It is often entirely invisible to the world and it is so hard core.
Sometimes an abortion, and also a late one, is a choice that has to be made by the mother and doctors to save the mother or to avoid unavoidable and hopeless suffering for the child. Having to have an abortion when you wish to have a child is an option you only choose if you absolutely have to.
If we don’t give her that option, we will loose lives. We already are.
-This post by Ida Tin is shared on LinkedIn and is republished here with her permission. The SheSight Team has not made any changes to the content.
