Ladies Say Goodbye to 11 Unnecessary Apologies

Navigating life abroad as a Canadian, letting go of my constant need to apologize was tough. In Canada, saying sorry is almost like a reflex, even for little things. But over time, I’ve managed to stop apologizing for certain aspects of my life.

The societal pressure to attain perfection, whether it’s in appearance, relationships, or career, exerts a formidable influence. But why do we strive so tirelessly for an unattainable ideal? Who are we really trying to impress? Personally, I’ve distanced myself from this mindset, recognizing the futility of seeking validation from others. Whether people appreciate me or not no longer impacts my sense of self-worth.

Here are 11 things I’ve ceased apologizing for:

A messy house: Your abode is your sanctuary. No need to apologize for its state, whether guests arrive unannounced or not.
Being sensitive/emotional: Embrace your emotions; they’re an integral part of your identity.
Being outspoken and vivacious: Don’t dim your radiance to conform to others’ expectations.
Your partner’s rude behavior: You’re not accountable for their actions. They should be the ones apologizing.
Your appearance: Whether dressed to the nines or in casual attire, flaunt it with confidence.
Setting boundaries: It’s vital for self-respect. No apologies necessary for asserting them.
Saying “No”: Your time and energy are precious. No explanations required.
Swearing: Be genuine; don’t apologize for expressing yourself.
Religion/beliefs: Your faith is personal; there’s no need to justify or apologize for it.
Unintentionally offending someone: Own your words, but don’t shoulder the burden of others’ reactions.
Using your voice: Advocate for what you believe in without hesitation.

It’s incredibly liberating to relinquish unnecessary apologies. Are you still apologizing for things you shouldn’t? It’s time to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing and embrace your authentic self.

Re-reported from the article originally published in Women Blazing Trails.