How to find and express your own aesthetics on social media and in real life

Have you ever looked at someone on social media and just thought to yourself, “Wow, she looks so good” or “She is just gorgeous.” These are some healthy thoughts you have right there, these are not what tend to pressurize us; it is what comes after that. Have you ever looked at somebody and thought that you might never be as pretty as that person or as stylish as that person? If you have, it is natural to have those thoughts. I have had them too, to be honest.

Studies have shown that social media affects a lot of young girls’ mental health in a very negative way, which leads to depression, eating disorders, negative body image issues, and in extreme cases, even suicide.

Social media does put all of us under a lot of pressure, it makes us want to decide our own aesthetic, and it makes us want to have the same impact on a room full of people as the person we look at, on social media, does. The question is how do we find it? How do we not feel pressurized for not having found it yet through social media? How do we fight the conventional standards of beauty?

In my opinion, it is pretty simple. First of all, we need to stop comparing ourselves with the people we see on social media, I don’t mean to demean anyone but not everything we see on social media is true. We are all born beautiful; the greatest tragedy is being convinced that we are not. This problem only arises when others or we, start comparing ourselves with other people. We need to accept ourselves and realize and see our own beauty. That is where the entire power lies.

To find our own aesthetic, we should find ourselves and love ourselves. Confidence is our strongest asset. We can create our own aura only if we feel confident. We must spend time with ourselves, and communicate with ourselves.

You will start seeing yourself as the person you are and then you will want the world to see that too. And when that happens, you will naturally find your own aesthetic and will be confident enough to show it to the world without worrying about anything else. It is a little difficult, especially at the age that we are but once you get through that, it is totally worth it. We just need to remember that we’re all stars, and we’re all beautiful.

Author Sara Pimprikar is a student, classical dancer, and mental health ambassador.