Are you aspiring to reach your goals during the phase of marriageable age ?


Hey girl, are you striving hard to reach your goal ? Great, then you are definitely one of a kind. Generally by the time one finishes their studies some may get placed in the fields of their liking and some may not be. Some may decide on their goals after completion of their studies.

Or else there are some careers which require a lot more time to get into. For instance, modelling, fashion designer, author, civil servant, singer, actor, pilot, army officer, or getting into an IIM among others. Whatever may be the situation, a girl should definitely require some time of her own to decide on their careers or to set her goals and to work on them.

The actual confusion and wavering starts when your period of career trails overlap with your marriageable age. This is when the thoughts pop up like, ‘ okay fine let us leave our time taking career trails for the time being and let us get married’. This is the time when one should be strong mentally and should not let thoughts like ‘giving up’ enter your mind, just for the sake of getting married mechanically.

It is you who has chosen your interested career path, then let nothing distract you from achieving it. And remember one thing that the so-called ‘marriageable age’ is just a social norm, which only focuses on making a woman feel insecure as well as guilty, if she does not get married in that time slot. 

We are not living in the times of Rassundari Debi, where women used to get married at a young age and prayed for not getting widowed, fearing sati and such other practices. Rassundari Debi being an illiterate has turned up to become the first Indian and Bengali full-fledged autobiographical author – of Amar Jiban. She used to be a secret student in her own home and started learning alphabets from her son’s school books, late at night.

Situations now have got better with the passing time with the contribution of many such inspirational women from the past. So let us not look down upon such leading ladies’ contributions, sacrifices and fights, to make the future better for next generations women, by giving up on our goals and dreams just to get married in the marriageable age.

Anusha Pappala

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