In a viral TikTok, psychologist Dr. Kim Sage sheds light on the concept of “eggshell parents” and their detrimental impact on children’s emotional well-being. These parents create an environment of emotional unpredictability, keeping their children in a perpetual state of hypervigilance.
Dr. Kim identifies two trademarks of eggshell parenting. Firstly, the rollercoaster of high highs and low lows in emotional states, causing kids to be constantly on edge. Secondly, verbal abuse becomes a tool, using words to shame and threaten children, making them feel guilty for their mistakes.
The psychologist emphasizes that yelling, screaming, shaming, blaming, and criticizing are prevalent in the eggshell parents’ handbook. Supportive moments may be interspersed with mocking or invalidating the child’s feelings, leaving them uncertain about their parents’ reactions. False accusations and intentional gaslighting further add to the confusion, distorting the child’s perception of reality.
Destruction of loved possessions as a form of punishment contributes to attachment issues, hindering the development of meaningful bonds with belongings. Dr. Kim also notes isolation tactics, where children are intermittently cut off from friends and loved ones, keeping them on constant guard.
Many viewers resonated with Dr. Kim’s depiction of dysfunctional eggshell families, sharing their own experiences of navigating volatile parental moods and coping mechanisms. The video highlighted the lasting impact of eggshell parenting on individuals, affecting their ability to connect meaningfully with others.
Breaking the cycle of abusive behavior is challenging, but Dr. Kim underscores the importance of recognizing that children will make mistakes, viewing them as essential steps in their development. Patience and a mindset focused on nurturing individuals into admirable characters can provide a solid foundation for effective parenting.
Repurposed article originally published in Distractify