Investing in Love: Key Ingredients for Modern Relationships


Constancy in love is a good thing, but it means nothing, and is nothing, without every kind of effort.– Charles Dickens (Bleak House)

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When it comes to romantic relationships sex is the integral part of it. Labor of love means the effort we are willing to put in the relationship.  In today’s fast paced life especially in urban areas where time is the most precious commodity, TIME is our key ingredient in any relationship.

 Here are certain ways to improve our intimacy.

1. Technological Advantage:

Staying connected and not letting conversations die is very important. With various forms of technology at play, we can create excitement and interest before the act, and keep things interesting.

2. Planning Ahead:

Spontaneity is key when it comes to intimate moments. But sometimes, a planned date, flower delivery, or just a simple agreement regarding the time can be physically and mentally relaxing and can help keep stress away.

3. Exploration of Each Other:

Exploring each other is incredibly enticing when someone is genuinely interested in you. Physically discovering one’s partner can be a total turn-on for both. On the other hand, an honest interest in each other’s life and hobbies also fosters a sense of worth and hope.

4.Understanding Deeper:

Understanding deeper needs and fantasies: When you know your partner’s deepest desires and can simulate situations accordingly, it leads to a deeper bond and a better connection. This brings out the part of you that is accepted and celebrated. Such understanding leads to a level of trust that we all seek.

5. Taking Vacations:

Together, a change in scenery through outdoor activities brings out the adrenaline rush and acts as a balm for your tired soul. This, in turn, breaks the monotony of day-to-day life, helping partners understand each other in a relaxed situation.

The most intriguing organ in our body is our brain. With the changing global socioeconomic and political scenario, a true and honest relationship can bring us a sense of security and love that we all seek. Intimacy is only one aspect of a relationship, but it is one of the most important. As a psychologist, it is a general observation that sometimes, because relationships require effort, we tend to resort to an easier option, which is the blame game. Let us invest our most precious commodity, which is time, in our relationships, and endeavor to explore and understand one another to create the relationships we all crave.

-Sugandha Dutt is a certified graphologist and therapist with 10 years’ experience in psychotherapy, counseling, correctional homes, schools, and seminars.

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